Why I Don’t Ask for People’s Pronouns or Announce Mine

I prefer you ask me whether I want you to assume, guess, or ask.

I prefer not to be asked for my “preferred pronouns.” In a world as diverse as ours, not everyone’s preferences can be catered to all the time. This leaves us with the question: should we ask everyone, no one, or only those who look “different” for their pronouns?

It won’t be othering, they say, because we’ll ask everyone.




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Arielle Isaac Norman

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Comedian and podcaster (Gender Fluids & Wrong Questions Only)

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