It's all so complicated because there are a million uncontrolled variables in the longitudinal study of each of our lives. I was a nonconforming kid too, and there were no pronoun options. I don't know whether I'd be better off if I'd had them, or if I'm glad I didn't. I try to put as little stock in what pronouns imply about someone as possible. Maybe instead of changing and adding pronouns, we can de-gender the pronouns we have. Or maybe we can do both, hitting it from both sides at once, if paradoxically.